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AWESOME ONLINE DATING
Online dating gets a bad rep. And it kind of makes sense…
Any of this sound familiar?
- Sending hundreds of messages without hearing anything back?
- Feeling frustrated, hopeless, and dejected that it could even work?
- Getting ghosted, or suddenly not hearing from someone who sounded so interested?
- Meeting people IRL to find out they’re just not that great?
- Hearing through the grapevine that the odds are stacked against men in online dating, and so it’s pointless to try?
Yeah. Ouch. That sucks. But, guys, it doesn’t have to.
Online dating provides one of the most straightforward and powerful contexts for meeting people for all sorts of relationships: one night stands, casual relationships, kinky relationships, short term relationships, long term relationships, hookups while travelling, geeky relationships, friends with benefits, sex friends…
If you can imagine a type of relationship, you’ll have an easier time setting it up online than anywhere else.
However, to turn online dating from a chore into a source of calm confidence, you need to do a few things:
- Be boldly yourself
- Be upfront about what you want
- Know how to use the online dating context to your advantage
- Be radically honest with yourself and others about what you want
- Practice Outcome Independence
I have helped more men with this one single aspect of their dating, sex, and relationship lives than any other. I have guided men go never having a single date in their lives to suddenly, arrestingly, finding themselves overbooked and needing to take their foot off the gas.
How do we do it?
We use the principles of the Sexual Craftsmanship system of practice in a laser-focused, sytematized way tailored directly to your individual desires for your online dating life.
SEXUAL CRAFTSMANSHIP IS
Until you know what you want, it’s almost impossible to experience it. Connecting to the specifics of your desires and making them concrete is the essential first step.
Your ability to care well for yourself: for your body, mind, emotions, energy, and spirit, permeates every single part of your sexual experience. Too many men skip this step. Not you.
The single most important skill to be able to experience your desires is communication: with words, with your body, and with touch. You’ll know how to send the message you intend to.
Consent gets a weirdly bad rep, which is a shame, because it is a ninja skill of epic proportions for your sex life. Consent is powerfully attractive.
Know the basics of how pleasure works in the human body, both yours and hers, and you’ll have done more than 95% of men in your pursuit of a good sex life.
Choice is the cornerstone of confidence in your life. Develop outcome independence and you’ll truly have something that most people do not.
To see rapid changes in your experience of online dating, you don’t need to learn the whole Sexual Craftsmanship system.
The goal here is to create a 180° revolution for you… in 1 month.
Here’s exactly how we do that:
- Dating Desires Inventory – You complete a comprehensive dating desires inventory. This worksheet is deliberately designed to zero in on your key online dating desires in order to most efficiently build your profile(s) around them
- The OLD Quick Start Checklist – You take a set of clear, well-defined actions before we meet in real life. This let’s us get the most out of our 1:1 time together
- LIVE Profile Tear Down – We hop on Zoom or JitsiMeet for 90 action packed minutes, where we rebuild your profile before your eyes, bringing it in line with your true online dating desires. We do this for one profile – you can use that as the base line for any others you also maintain. You leave the call with a fully refreshed, ready to go profile.
- The OLD Messaging Quick Start – This is your take-away quick and dirty guide to the effective use of messaging in Online Dating to filter the partners who aren’t a fit and to meet those that are IRL ASAP
- Email Support – Over the next 30 days, email me any quick questions that come to your mind. Response within 72 hours.
- LIVE Fine Tune – 30 days after we first meet, we’ll get together and spend 30 minutes refining your profile. What worked? What hasn’t? We’ll troubleshoot and refine together. We can also look at another profile, or cover messaging in more depth than the quick start guide.