Wouldn’t it be fucking awesome if we never had to risk rejection?
Think about it – how amazing would it be to have a fool-proof way to know if someone is into you, where you could just know and then proceed to naked fun times with minimal fuss.
Unfortunately, I’ve got some bad news. With the exception of someone coming up to you and directly declaring their lust (and totally risking rejection in the process, I might add), there really is no fool-proof way to know on sight.
With that said, there are some general indicators that you can look for to see if someone is interested in you as a person, which I outline in this video from my Youtube channel:
Learning the basics of body language and nonverbal communication is an incredibly useful skill, in life generally and in dating, sex, and relationships specifically.
The four nonverbal messages I outlined in that video – open posture, eye contact, active listening (i.e. nodding head, focus), and physical proximity – speak volumes. To get better with body language, a great place to start is by observing others and becoming aware of your own body language.
This solo practice helps to develop comfort and confidence with nonverbal communication. And that helps if, later, you’re in a situation with someone you’re attracted to. It’s never a great time to learn anything new when you’re in emotionally charged and sexually exciting situations.
MINI MISSION: Pick two days and mark them on your calendar. On day 1, make a conscious effort during the day to observe people and to note if and when they use these four basic nonverbal messages. On day 2, make a conscious effort during the day to display these four nonverbal messages in contextually relevant ways. That is, if you’re having a conversation with a friend and you are really interested in what they are saying, are you communicating that non-verbally, too?
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